17 10 / 2014
You are sitting at a table with your friend. You are each going to write a postcard. There are ten pencils on the table, each of which is a different color. You choose the red one.
Your friend says to you: “Hey, could I ask you to not use that red pencil? When I was a kid, the other kids would tease me and throw red pencils at my face, and they always used the red pencils in class and showed them to me so I would know what was coming later.”
At this point, you have a choice to make:
You can say “whoa, that sucks, I did not know that” and choose one of the other eight pencils.
Or, you could say “well…I am not going to throw this pencil at you, so it doesn’t matter if it makes you unhappy or if it scares you. I’m going to use this one.”
Your friend: “Okay. Sooooo I didn’t want to bring this up, but you and I were actually in the same class. And it was your group of friends who used to do this to me. And I am sure you don’t do that anymore, but still, it’s kind of nasty to think about. I am asking you to just respect this one easy request.”
YOU: “Yeah, I remember that! And no, I don’t throw pencils at people anymore, but those were really fun times for me and my friends. You can’t make me feel bad because I used to have fun! I didn’t know any better.”
Your friend: “There are literally eight other pencils sitting right there. And also we are currently sitting on a mountain of other pencils and pens and paintbrushes and markers that you could use instead. You would be giving up nothing.”
YOU: “Yeah, but I picked this one first. Using other pencils doesn’t feel as strong, it doesn’t feel as powerful. And I have decided for both of us that you have no right to feel scared or hurt.”
THEM: ”So, wait, you are saying you are actually using that word because of its history of abuse and violence, and yet I should not be angry about it, when your purpose in using it is to take advantage of the power given to the word by its violent and hurtful past?”
YOU: “Using what word? I thought we were talking about pencils!”
Your friend: “Yeah, you suck.”
16 10 / 2014
"Capitalism would have us believe that we only deserve to be here because of what we produce, and even in our counter- cultures, even in our movements we reproduce the same idea. We only deserve to be here because of what we can produce that other people will buy with their money, time or attention. Our experience of our own lives is secondary, it is only the means of production, it is the products that matter, and unless we make ourselves into both factories and widgets we are not valuable."
15 10 / 2014
While absolutely no one deserves the kind of harassment that Anita Sarkeesian gets, its remarkable to remember that Anita has done nothing whatsoever that should scare even the most misogynistic gamer. She has not called for regulation, hasn’t proposed any industry standards or policies, hasn’t asked for anyone to be fired or any company to be singled out. She hasn’t ever even suggested that anyone who makes or anyone who plays these games is misogynist or should “feel bad” about what they are doing. She has literally just given some talks and made some videos saying “here is some stuff I see happening in games.”
And yet she is harassed with such violence and persistence, you would think she somehow hides inside of every game console in the world, nerfing male characters and screaming feminist rants and electrocuting the testicles of any boy who looks at boobies.
A great way to tell that oppressive structures are real is when the privileged group goes bat-ass crazed any time their targets take even one small step outside of their assigned box.
14 10 / 2014
"Yes, there are going to be men who realize they have been abusers, harassers, and rapists. That is not going to be easy for them to hear. Yes, men are going to realize that the language that is a part of their everyday lives is degrading and violent. It will not be easy change their tongues. Yes, men are going to realize that the economic, political, and social clout they enjoy is the result of thousands of years of repressive laws and customs aimed at ensuring their dominance, and much of that has to do with causing physical harm to women to secure their silence. And that is going to be really, really uncomfortable to hear. The truth often is."
13 10 / 2014
is it your own skin though? As in you grew it, on your own body, from birth?
This skin was grown yes. On a human body. That is mine. I’m not a robot
Ok ok I’ll believe you… If you first tell me what this says:
I don’t need to prove myself to you how dare you, I love breathing oxygen